menopause and stress

Does stress make the symptoms of the menopause worse or does the menopause make you stressed?

We know that physical stress can cause you to stop having your period. Common examples are women who are long-distance runners and women with eating disorders. Psychological stress can also disrupt normal menstrual cycles. In fact, some symptoms of menopause and stress are very similar. These are:

  • Pain
  • Irritability
  • Reduced interest in sex
  • Depression
  • Trouble sleeping
  • Forgetfulness
  • Mood swings

If you are not peri-menopausal or in the menopause but experiencing the symptoms listed above, you may be experiencing stress

Peri-menopause tends to come at a time when there are other stressors in a woman’s life. Between the ages of the late 30’s and early 50’s, women struggle with a variety of life issues, and what is sometimes blamed on peri-menopause may be life stress that happens to coincide . For example, many women going through peri-menopause have children, and being a parent is a big contributor to stress in adults. 

There are a variety of potential issues that can create some form of anxiety in a woman’s life. Most likely, the anxiety a woman feels during peri-menopause is the result of an interaction of a combination of life stressors, and not quite as simple as saying “it is hormones” – but it might be a hormonal problem and so you should go to your GP for an assessment.

Try this anxiety assessment which has a free result but if you listen to the podcast it does ask for money for a solution so you need to decide it its worth it for you.

Try this US assessment about the menopause and treatments

If you are experiencing stress then call me for a FREE 30 minute discussion about what I can do to help you.

5 ways to deal with panic attacks

Panic attacks can be a sign of extreme stress. If you are experiencing repeated, unprovoked attacks see your GP for a diagnosis.

Unfortunately the fear of further panic attacks can be a bigger problem than the attack itself as it is likely you will start to change the way you live your life and start to avoid the trigger situation.

What to do if you start an attack

  • Remind yourself that you are safe – it is just anxiety;
  • Don’t try to distract yourself, sit down, cover your eyes and focus on your breathing;
  • Breathe slowly with shallow breaths;
  • Don’t leave the area where you have the attack as you will likely start to avoid it in future;
  • As the attack passes (about 2 minutes ) focus on your surroundings and try to identify what the trigger was.

Avoiding Panic Attacks

  • Take some time to do daily breathing exercises;
  • Take some exercise daily to help manage stress levels;
  • Eat regularly to keep your blood sugar stable;
  • Avoid caffeine, alcohol and smoking as ways of dealing with your panic and stress;
  • Talk to your GP or seek out therapy to deal with your stress.

Watch Nadia, Anxiety and me on the BBC. Get advice from the NHS about panic disorder here.

If you would like to have a FREE 30 minute chat about how I can help you, please call or email me

Stress, fear and anxiety

If you are a habitual worrier then fear is likely to be the underlying reaction to the problems you are facing at home or at work. This is because you are perceiving some sort of threat to yourself. Fear is one of the basic instincts that every human is born with and it is about survival. We react to fear in various ways based on the fight or flight predisposition.

Escape, Defence, Freezing, Submission

If you are a habitual escaper (flight) then you will avoid any perceived threat and run away from it. This might mean you will fail to deal with relationship problems or work problems by burying your head in the sand.

If you believe you cannot escape from your threat, you may decide to attack (fight) in order to increase your chances of victory over your threat – in order to defend yourself. If you have angry outbursts on a regular basis then this may be your response to the stressors your perceive.

Freezing may be the response to stress where you are living or working with someone who is unpredictable and you don’t want to antagonise them. So you hide your own emotional needs in order not to aggravate someone who may be constantly attacking as their response to stressors.

Submission is sometimes the emotional response when the individual fears being rejected by someone or a group that they wish to be with. The individual suppresses emotions in order to ensure acceptability.

Anxiety becomes and issue for an individual when the fear reactions become excessive and start to affect their lives. Anxiety may prevent you from leading the life you want. You can find out more about one woman’s experience of anxiety here

If you are experience anxiety and would like to talk, call me for a free 30 minute discussion about how I can help you regain your confidence and sense of security

post-natal depression

An estimated 80% of new mothers experience the post-birth low mood known as ‘baby blues’. But around 10% of new mothers experience a low mood which affects their lives in many ways. This is post-natal depression. You can read more about this debilitating condition below

Take the Edinburgh post-natal depression assessment here

If you would like to have a chat about your assessment score or have any concerns, please contact me on or phone 07565044774 – a chat is FREE!

Social media addiction

Price Harry says  that social media addiction is stronger than alcohol or drugs (see here)  and he is RIGHT.  Social Media overuse stimulates the same hormones in the brain that gambling addiction does. 

Take this short questionnaire to see if you have a problem here

Like all negative habits, they are hard to break once they become entrenched so make sure your children have clear boundaries and time when they are NOT using their phones or on their gaming consoles. 

If you have any concerns about your own or your children’s social media habits and need help to deal with the consequences, get in touch right away on or phone 07565 044747 for a FREE initial chat.

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